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AtN Podcast 212: Mellow Drama

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Approaching The Natural Podcast, health, philosophy, nutrition, movement, art, wellness, mindfulness

Office drama. Relationship drama. Political drama. World drama. It’s out there, but NOT independent of you. Small Step your way into a level of involvement (or not) that serves YOU. Boom.

SmallSteppers.com: Learn my Small Steps system in this 12-week program!

MY NEW BOOK: Raising healthy Parents: Small Steps, Less Stress, and a Thriving Family

Donate to the Podcast! | AtN Podcast Merchandise | Approaching the Natural | Meal Plan

See me live:
Portland Veg Fest (Portland, October 14/15 2017)
SoCal Veg Fest (Costa Mesa, CA, October 28/29, 2017)
Tampa Bay Veg Fest (Tampa, FL, November 4, 2017)
Sanctuary Bistro (Reading/Signing) (Berkeley, CA, December 10, 2017)
Sedona VegFest (Sedona, AZ, January 20/21, 2018)
NYC Veg Food Fest (New York, NY, May 19/20, 2018)

Find me:
sidgarzahillman.com
smallsteppers.com
YouTube: Sid Garza-Hillman
Stanford Inn Eco-Resort: Stanford Inn Eco-Resort
AtN Podcast music: The Sid Hillman Quartet (this episode: “Lullaby for Luna”)


AtN Podcast 213: Delayed. Gratification.

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Approaching The Natural Podcast, health, philosophy, nutrition, movement, art, wellness, mindfulness

Most of us have more free time than we think–IF we know where to look and understand the value of much smaller chunks of time. Listen in and discover the universe that awaits in 5 minutes.

SmallSteppers.com: Learn my Small Steps system in this 12-week program!

MY NEW BOOK: Raising healthy Parents: Small Steps, Less Stress, and a Thriving Family

Donate to the Podcast! | AtN Podcast Merchandise | Approaching the Natural | Meal Plan

See me live:
SoCal Veg Fest (Costa Mesa, CA, October 28/29, 2017)
Tampa Bay Veg Fest (Tampa, FL, November 4, 2017)
Sanctuary Bistro (Reading/Signing) (Berkeley, CA, December 10, 2017)
Sedona VegFest (Sedona, AZ, January 20/21, 2018)
NYC Veg Food Fest (New York, NY, May 19/20, 2018)

Find me:
sidgarzahillman.com
smallsteppers.com
YouTube: Sid Garza-Hillman
Stanford Inn Eco-Resort: Stanford Inn Eco-Resort
AtN Podcast music: The Sid Hillman Quartet (this episode: “Always Something”)

AtN Podcast 214: Let Myself Go

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Approaching The Natural Podcast, health, philosophy, nutrition, movement, art, wellness, mindfulness

“I Let Myself Go.” What do people really mean when they say that? I think there is some definite good news hidden in those words, and a completely different way to interpret that statement. Listen in!

SmallSteppers.com: Learn my Small Steps system in this 12-week program!

MY NEW BOOK: Raising healthy Parents: Small Steps, Less Stress, and a Thriving Family

Donate to the Podcast! | AtN Podcast Merchandise | Approaching the Natural | Meal Plan

See me live:
SoCal Veg Fest (Costa Mesa, CA, October 28/29, 2017)
Tampa Bay Veg Fest (Tampa, FL, November 4, 2017)
Sanctuary Bistro (Reading/Signing) (Berkeley, CA, December 10, 2017)
Sedona VegFest (Sedona, AZ, January 20/21, 2018)
NYC Veg Food Fest (New York, NY, May 19/20, 2018)

Find me:
sidgarzahillman.com
smallsteppers.com
YouTube: Sid Garza-Hillman
Stanford Inn Eco-Resort: Stanford Inn Eco-Resort
AtN Podcast music: The Sid Hillman Quartet (this episode: “Sandstorms”)

AtN Podcast 215: Tip the Tipping Point

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Approaching The Natural Podcast, health, philosophy, nutrition, movement, art, wellness, mindfulness

Not can we, but HOW can we take control of our lives enough to begin making improvements in our health and happiness long before we hit the dreaded tipping point–the point at which we just can’t take it any longer.

SmallSteppers.com: Learn my Small Steps system in this 12-week program!

MY NEW BOOK: Raising healthy Parents: Small Steps, Less Stress, and a Thriving Family

Donate to the Podcast! | AtN Podcast Merchandise | Approaching the Natural | Meal Plan

See me live:
Tampa Bay Veg Fest (Tampa, FL, November 4, 2017)
Sanctuary Bistro (Reading/Signing) (Berkeley, CA, December 10, 2017)
Sedona VegFest (Sedona, AZ, January 20/21, 2018)
NYC Veg Food Fest (New York, NY, May 19/20, 2018)

Mentioned in this Episode:

Garth Davis Post about “What the Health”

Find me:
sidgarzahillman.com
smallsteppers.com
YouTube: Sid Garza-Hillman
Stanford Inn Eco-Resort: Stanford Inn Eco-Resort
AtN Podcast music: The Sid Hillman Quartet (this episode: “Until You”)

AtN Podcast 216: Hard Wired

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Approaching The Natural Podcast, health, philosophy, nutrition, movement, art, wellness, mindfulness

Let’s not underestimate how much mental real estate our existing routines and behaviors take up. A ton. If we understand this, then we respect the fact that effectively introducing new (healthy) behaviors takes time. Cuz, it just frickin’ does.

SmallSteppers.com: Learn my Small Steps system in this 12-week program!

MY NEW BOOK: Raising healthy Parents: Small Steps, Less Stress, and a Thriving Family

Donate to the Podcast! | AtN Podcast Merchandise | Approaching the Natural | Meal Plan

See me live:
Sanctuary Bistro (Reading/Signing) (Berkeley, CA, December 10, 2017)
Sedona VegFest (Sedona, AZ, January 20/21, 2018)
NYC Veg Food Fest (New York, NY, May 19/20, 2018)

Find me:
sidgarzahillman.com
smallsteppers.com
YouTube: Sid Garza-Hillman
Stanford Inn Eco-Resort: Stanford Inn Eco-Resort
AtN Podcast music: The Sid Hillman Quartet (this episode: “Silver’s More Pretty Than Gold” Live at the Crocodile in Seattle, 2001)

AtN Podcast 217: The Profit of the Prophet

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Approaching The Natural Podcast, health, philosophy, nutrition, movement, art, wellness, mindfulness

Prophets, gurus, actors, politicians. To succeed in this world we must learn to separate the person from the message, and refuse to give our power away to anyone. More on this in this episode.

SmallSteppers.com: Learn my Small Steps system in this 12-week program!

MY NEW BOOK: Raising healthy Parents: Small Steps, Less Stress, and a Thriving Family

Donate to the Podcast! | AtN Podcast Merchandise | Approaching the Natural | Meal Plan

See me live:
Sanctuary Bistro (Reading/Signing) (Berkeley, CA, December 10, 2017)
Sedona VegFest (Sedona, AZ, January 20/21, 2018)
NYC Veg Food Fest (New York, NY, May 19/20, 2018)

Find me:
sidgarzahillman.com
smallsteppers.com
YouTube: Sid Garza-Hillman
Stanford Inn Eco-Resort: Stanford Inn Eco-Resort
AtN Podcast music: The Sid Hillman Quartet (this episode: “God Like”)

AtN Podcast 218: Fix the Vacuum

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Approaching The Natural Podcast, health, philosophy, nutrition, movement, art, wellness, mindfulness

If all we focus on is what we want to stop doing, we have no idea what to do in its place. There is a vacuum left by simply not doing something. Fix that by small stepping — taking actions that fill in the empty space with new, healthier behaviors.

SmallSteppers.com: Learn my Small Steps system in this 12-week program!

MY NEW BOOK: Raising healthy Parents: Small Steps, Less Stress, and a Thriving Family

Donate to the Podcast! | AtN Podcast Merchandise | Approaching the Natural | Meal Plan

See me live:
Sanctuary Bistro (Reading/Signing) (Berkeley, CA, December 10, 2017)
Sedona VegFest (Sedona, AZ, January 20/21, 2018)
NYC Veg Food Fest (New York, NY, May 19/20, 2018)

Find me:
sidgarzahillman.com
smallsteppers.com
YouTube: Sid Garza-Hillman
Stanford Inn Eco-Resort: Stanford Inn Eco-Resort
AtN Podcast music: The Sid Hillman Quartet (This week’s song: “Shimmering Sun”)

AtN Podcast 219: The Two Headed Monster

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Approaching The Natural Podcast, health, philosophy, nutrition, movement, art, wellness, mindfulness

Humans have two heads. Both serve their purpose, but let’s make sure both have a voice in our lives…listen in to find out what the heck I’m talking about (I know I will!).

SmallSteppers.com: Learn my Small Steps system in this 12-week program!

MY NEW BOOK: Raising healthy Parents: Small Steps, Less Stress, and a Thriving Family

Donate to the Podcast! | AtN Podcast Merchandise | Approaching the Natural | Meal Plan

See me live:
Sanctuary Bistro (Reading/Signing) (Berkeley, CA, December 10, 2017)
Sedona VegFest (Sedona, AZ, January 20/21, 2018)
Nashville VegFest (Nashville, TN, April 7, 2018)
NYC Veg Food Fest (New York, NY, May 19/20, 2018)

Find me:
sidgarzahillman.com
smallsteppers.com
YouTube: Sid Garza-Hillman
Stanford Inn Eco-Resort: Stanford Inn Eco-Resort
AtN Podcast music: The Sid Hillman Quartet (This week’s song: “Blind-sided”)


AtN Podcast 220: Practice Makes Imperfect

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Approaching The Natural Podcast, health, philosophy, nutrition, movement, art, wellness, mindfulness

A successful Small Stepper understands that to live a good life means building a practice where one no longer chases perfection. A practice that embraces this fact: to live a diversified, multi-faceted, adventurous life means embracing imperfection.

SmallSteppers.com: Learn my Small Steps system in this 12-week program!

Health Made Simple: A ground-breaking healthy eating system

MY NEW BOOK: Raising healthy Parents: Small Steps, Less Stress, and a Thriving Family

Donate to the Podcast! | AtN Podcast Merchandise | Approaching the Natural

See me live:
Sanctuary Bistro (Reading/Signing) (Berkeley, CA, December 10, 2017)
Sedona VegFest (Sedona, AZ, January 20/21, 2018)
Nashville VegFest (Nashville, TN, April 7, 2018)
Wilmington VegFest (Wilmington, NC, April 14, 2018)
NYC Veg Food Fest (New York, NY, May 19/20, 2018)

Find me:
sidgarzahillman.com
smallsteppers.com
YouTube: Sid Garza-Hillman
Stanford Inn Eco-Resort: Stanford Inn Eco-Resort
AtN Podcast music: The Sid Hillman Quartet (This week’s song: “This Storm”)

AtN Podcast 221: A Little Dabble Do Ya

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Dabble in the extremes, thrive in the middle.

SmallSteppers.com: Learn my Small Steps system in this 12-week program!

Health Made Simple: A ground-breaking healthy eating system

MY NEW BOOK: Raising healthy Parents: Small Steps, Less Stress, and a Thriving Family

Donate to the Podcast! | AtN Podcast Merchandise | Approaching the Natural

See me live:
Sedona VegFest (Sedona, AZ, January 20/21, 2018)
Nashville VegFest (Nashville, TN, April 7, 2018)
Wilmington VegFest (Wilmington, NC, April 14, 2018)
NYC Veg Food Fest (New York, NY, May 19/20, 2018)

Find me:
sidgarzahillman.com
smallsteppers.com
YouTube: Sid Garza-Hillman
Stanford Inn Eco-Resort: Stanford Inn Eco-Resort
AtN Podcast music: The Sid Hillman Quartet (This week’s song: “500 Feet”)

AtN Podcast 222: the end.

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The Ol’ Switcheroo Effect

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It’s been a little while since I’ve blogged, but for those of you who don’t know, I ended my podcast.

Done. Finished. Moving on.
 
This week I felt like posting a blog.
 
About ending the podcast, this I know for sure : It was time. It was simply time.
 
I didn’t make a pros and cons list. I didn’t ask for anyone’s two cents. Instead, driving home a few weeks ago an eerily calm thought popped into my head: “this coming week’s episode will be my last.” What immediately followed was a wave of relief. That’s when I knew for sure it was time to shut the show down.
 
After posting my last episode, I received an outpouring of incredible e-mails from listeners all over the world and for them (and for you) I will be forever touched and thankful.
 
While I did (and do) feel sad, I still did not regret my decision.

This is what I want to write about here.
 
What I call “The Ol’ Switcheroo Effect.”
 
Since posting my final episode, I’ve found myself missing it and also having regular podcast ideas/topics come up, in response to which I’ll think: “cool, I’ll talk about that in next week’s episo-…oh wait…there isn’t a next week’s episode.”
 
And…I’m at a loss for what to do in place of the show. More time with family? One more YouTube video per week? Another book? More time on music? This blog?
 
Mostly I find myself feeling ungrounded, disconnected, and frankly a little bit floaty.
 
But, in a weird way, it kinda feels good…
 
Why? Because what I have found in the years I’ve been a Small Steps coach is that to achieve a fulfilling, happy, healthy life means intentionally shaking things up once in a while. It means sometimes breaking routines.
 
It’s not that routines can’t be super helpful. They can.
 
Routines can keep us on track, and free up some mental space for other things we want to do. For example, establishing a routine of healthy eating means I don’t have to think about food much, which in turn means more time and mental energy to devote to other parts of my life.
 
In fact, my podcast did become a routine. Every week for 222 weeks in a row—I’d record on Sunday or Monday, then edit and post Monday night. Never missed a single week. It was awesome. The routine of it kept me on track, consistent, and engaged. Had I pulled an “I’ll record when I feel like it” approach I’d never have gotten past the first few episodes. The routine kept me coming back to the microphone, allowed me to hone my approach, and to think up new ideas and new ways of communicating them. Simply stated, the routine I established was both crucial and essential in my becoming a better podcaster, small steps coach, and speaker. 
 
But then…
 
The routine itself began to drain me. I began to feel restless. I no longer felt as inspired. I felt both a little dread leading up to the next week’s episode, and huge relief each Tuesday morning, knowing I’d have six whole days before I had to do it again.
 
So here’s what I did….
 
I broke the routine.
 
Enter the “Ol’ Switcheroo Effect.”
 
The Ol’ Switcheroo Effect happens when we decide to break up the routines that are no longer working for us. When we choose to shake things up. When we intentionally switch things around. When we poke holes in our lives and then figure out new ways to fill them.

And, perhaps most importantly, the effect only happens when we do the hard and constant work on ourselves to develop the strength to be able to break the routines when the time comes.
 
The Effect?

New avenues of thought and creativity. New inspiration. New passion. New direction.
 
Yes, in the beginning the Ol’ Switcheroo Effect can leave us feeling lost and ungrounded.
 
But know this: we eventually feel the ground once again.

Finding Your Voice

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In 1995 I recorded and released my very first album. It is long out of print, but over the last few years I’ve featured a couple songs from it on podcast episodes.

But, here’s the thing: as an album, the dang thing makes me cringe.

But while these days I cringe, I very clearly remember being super happy with it at the time. Happy with my songwriting, the performance, the other musicians. In fact, the entire experience was phenomenal from start to finish – creating this piece of art and putting it out into the world was exhilarating.

After that?

On to my next album. And the next. Then on to forming a band. Then to recording four more albums–albums that frankly don’t make me cringe at all…quite the opposite in fact.

By now, you’re probably thinking, “how in the world does this relate to healthy living?”

Here’s how…

I’ve said from day one as a Small Steps Coach that I do not help transform anyone into a new person, but instead help people become who they already are.

Essentially my work is to help you find your voice.

Finding your voice requires time. Finding your voice requires hard work. Finding your voice requires failure. Finding your voice requires learning to let go of the parts of your life that are not you.

It means not spending your whole life trying to perfect, but never complete, one album, but instead finishing it so you can get to the next one, and then to the next one, and so on.

Why? Because your voice emerges more each time and over time.

My very last private client (just prior to my launching the twelve-week program) sent me this quote:

Every first draft is perfect because all a first draft has to do is exist. – Jane Smiley

This is how I think of my very first album. It was a first draft. It just needed to be what it was so that I could move on. So that I could take what I learned from that experience and do it even better the next time.

And so it is with our efforts to create happy, healthy lives. When we set ourselves up for a life-long practice, we allow our voices to emerge. Where we are at any given time only has to be where we are and nothing more.

Only when we understand this can we grow, evolve, and move through our lives in ways that enable us to find and express our own, singular voices.

Loud and clear.

EARN YOUR KEEP

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There is a difference between earning what you want and being handed what you want.

When you earn it, you value it. When you earn it, you’re a happier person for having earned it.

And yet, despite understanding this fact, most of us are still heavily drawn to quick fixes – shortcuts that promise us incredible results with minimal effort. Kinda like they’re saying they’ll hand us what we really want without our having to deal with the hassle of having to earn it, ya know?

Likewise, we’re fascinated with celebrities from the Kardashians to PewDiePie – individuals who have achieved huge success and fame seemingly without much struggle or effort – and can’t keep our eyes off the ubiquitous ‘before and after photos’ that appear in almost every issue of People Magazine. It looks so easy! How great would it be to get the life we want and skip the “you have to earn it” part?

Lose 10 lbs. in 8 weeks.

Six-pack abs in 10 minutes a day.

It is not surprising that quick fixes are so incredibly alluring. Why wouldn’t we go for something that promises a super desirable outcome with minimal effort? Fact is, humans are wired to avoid stress. We don’t function well under high levels of stress, so if we see something that looks like a shortcut to that desirable outcome, it’s hard not to go for it.

But, what if the desirable outcome promised by a quick fix isn’t actually the outcome we desire? And what if the outcome we truly desire can only be achieved by working hard and really earning it? What if the ‘earning’ part is just as essential as the outcome?

Meaning that while you might earn a lower scale weight by following a diet, there’s a 102% chance that the outcome you actually want is the knowledge and tools that will not only get you healthy but keep you healthy.

No flashy diet book or quick fix infomercial will ever promise long-term health and happiness because neither would ever be able to deliver on that promise.

One more time: There is a difference between earning what you really want and being handed what you really want.

So, you can spend your time and energy seeking shortcuts and convincing yourself that you really do want what the quick fixes are promising, or…

You can accept the truth that there is no substitute for earning your keep. No substitute for hard work. No substitute for the incredible feeling of accomplishment and success you feel when you’ve achieved something not only without it being handed to you, but by not even asking for it to be handed to you in the first place.

We succeed in our lives not by falling for the quick fix, but by looking for the long-term fix.

ELITE, SCHMELITE

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With just a couple clicks we are bombarded with lists.

Like…

  • Top ten super foods
  • Top 5 anti-inflammatory foods
  • Top 7 best yoga poses
  • Top 10 lists of top 10 best berries

You get the gist of the list.

But let’s not forget the ‘optimals’:

  • The perfect proportion of carbohydrate to protein that one should consume within the first 45 minutes post-workout for optimal recovery
  • The optimal amount of protein to consume per kg of weight
  • The optimal training plan to increase your pace by 2 minutes per mile
  • The mostest, bestest exercise to yield six pack abs
  • Butter coffee

And make no mistake, we are drawn to these lists and optimals. We can’t help but click on what we think could be the very, very, very best. The optimal. The elite.

But…

I believe we’re allowing ourselves to be lead astray.

Often these lists and optimals can leave us feeling pressured and stressed. For example, we check out the top 5 anti-inflammatory foods list, then feel a ton of pressure to eat them every single day. Every. Single. Day. I mean, do you even know what could happen if you don’t consume the top 5 every day? You guessed it. Frickin’ inflammation. Like nobody’s business…

And yet, somewhere in our minds we know–that is IF we hit pause for just a moment–that we’d actually be just fine.

Here’s the reality…

These types of clicky-baity things (‘clicky-baity’ is a word, starting now) appeal to (nay, pray upon) our intense desire to live the best life possible. But the truth is, they’re only ever selling ‘elite status’ in one particular area. Just food or just yoga or just meditation or just productivity or just six pack abs. You get the idea.

Problem is, when we strive for elite status in only one area of our lives, we often move further away from an elite life overall.

In other words, sometimes doing less than super duper optimal in one area means a better chance at an optimal life.

But, I want to be clear: the information in these lists and optimals may very well be incredible.

The question is simply this: How are you going to use the information once you learn it?

Now, a little story…

In the Fall of 2016 I registered for the North Face Endurance Challenge 50K ultramarathon, and decided to perform a little experiment. Here’s what I did and didn’t do:

  • I did NOT follow a training plan
  • I did NOT have a race day nutrition/food plan
  • I did NOT look at the course, nor have any knowledge of elevation, terrain, or even aid station locations
  • I DID show up to the starting line with a single bottle of water and nothing else—no back pack, no gels, no extra socks, Band-Aids or any of the other stuff I had carried with me during previous ultras.

Why would I do this?

I wanted to see if I could have a successful race without the requisite big ol’ amount of time and energy devoted to crafting an (in theory) optimal game plan.

The outcome?

My best race day ever. Great day. Fun day. Strong finish. Fast recovery.

But here’s what else I know…

Had I followed a professional training plan and/or worked with a coach, had I planned out my race-day food plan and trained with it in mind, had I studied the course ahead of time and crafted a pacing strategy, had I carried my food with me rather than spend time eating at the aid stations, I could’ve finished the race faster. Of this I am 100% sure.

But here’s what else I know…

I am not an elite runner. I have no desire to be. I just love running, love the challenge of ultramarathons, and want to treat my body and mind well along the way so that I can continue to run for years to come.

I wanted to have a successful race, but in the way that I define success.

And so…

While the lists and optimals may be right on the money information-wise, they may not be applicable to the life you’re trying to live.

In other words, living an ELITE LIFE means knowing how to use information in ways that benefit your entire life.


THE HARD TRUTH, AND NOTHING BUT THE HARD TRUTH

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When people adopt my Small Steps approach, they notice when they’re taking on too much or too little. And more importantly, when they do, they know they have the power to adjust and adapt to ensure that new, healthy behaviors stick around long enough to become habits.

However…

In adopting this approach, people begin to see hard truths about themselves. Hard truths they may not have faced or wanted to face before.

Here’s what happens: When people take control of their lives, they more clearly see both what is and isn’t working. They begin to…well…see more.

While this clarity does lead to a healthier and happier life, the hyper-awareness of “what isn’t working” can be uncomfortable and even downright painful.

I help people negotiate their lives better. I help people bring in healthy habits in ways that empower them to actually continue with them long-term. I help people define the life they want to be living, and then understand the power they have to immediately move closer to that life.

For real.

Without burnout. Without stagnancy.

With action. With accomplishment.

But I want everyone to understand this: Many of the unhealthy habits we desperately want to change exist because we aren’t fully living life on our terms.

Rare is it that we regularly eat junk food because we don’t know that junk food is unhealthy. More often than not (like, almost 100% of the time), a junk food habit is a reaction to how we’re living overall.

Rare is it that we don’t exercise because we don’t know that exercise is good for us. More likely we stay on the couch because we’re over-tired, stressed, fatigued, and over-worked.

However, when we learn there is a way out–when we learn that adding a single stalk of celery to the fast food on our plate makes a huge difference and that getting off the couch for just a one minute walk around the living room makes a huge difference, we begin the process of improving out health and happiness. Right then.

This is incredible, amazing, and even more synonyms, but…we also can’t help but be more aware of the things we’ve been doing that we really don’t like. I mean, really don’t like.

Here’s what I believe…

I believe we all know things about ourselves that we don’t want to think about or sometimes even admit.

I believe to survive in the modern world, we need to compartmentalize certain hard truths about ourselves so that we can frickin’ get up in the morning, work, raise families, and pay the bills.

I believe that at least some of our “free” time is spent distracting ourselves with junk food, social media, news or anything else that occupies us enough to keep the hard truths at bay.

But understand this:

Surviving is one thing. Living is another.

Staying alive vs. feeling alive.

Getting clear on who you truly are, what you stand for, and the life you want to live is freedom. It is liberation. But it takes time and cannot be forced. Freedom all at once can be overwhelming.

Learn how to take your time. Learn how to avoid overwhelm. Learn how to keep your stress levels low enough that you’re able to face and correct the parts of your life that aren’t a reflection of who you are. Face the hard truths slowly, and understand that it is a position of strength to ask for help if really seeing these hard truths causes you an inordinate amount of pain.

These truths are hard because on some level we know them, but don’t want to think about them.

But when we do, when we engage in our lives and bring these truths out from hiding, we live the lives we’re meant to.

 

 

Oh my gosh! Is that the time?!?

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Real quick: an exciting announcement.

I’m giving away THREE smallsteppers.com memberships. Count ‘em. Three.

Launching and running smallsteppers.com has been an incredible experience. And members have been telling me it’s been a great experience for them too…In fact, below is a testimonial. But…to be entered to win a free membership, all you gotta do is reply to this blog post, tag someone from my facebook page or Instagram page, and/or comment on my recent YouTube vlog (btw, I put up new videos every Tues. & Thurs–subscribe!).

We’ll pick three of you and you’ll get to experience this ground-breaking twelve-week program first-hand! Here’s the testimonial and see below for this week’s blog post!

Testimonial:

“The Small Steppers Program has helped me remove the guilt from my self improvement efforts. I, like everyone else, am super busy and sometimes it is just nice to know that I can do as small a step as I need to, something that fits in with my life, and it will become part of my normal very soon. Then, and only then, I can move on to adding another step. It all adds up and contributes to a nice, positive mindset and “wall of behaviors”, without pressure or shame. Also, I love Sid’s conversational way and his easy ability to answer every question at the Live Q&A sessions with an in-depth response. I could keep writing, but will leave it at that for now. :)” A.M.

Good luck and now, on to the blog…

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Time.

Most of us (me definitely included), feel we don’t have enough of it. Or at least not enough free time. But before I get specifically to ‘time’…

Here are a few examples of what can prevent people from making long-lasting/real changes in their lives:

  • They don’t exercise because they don’t have an hour to go to a gym, much less the time it takes to drive there and back.
  • They don’t eat healthier because it takes too much time to learn new recipes, the recipes are too frickin’ complicated anyways, and eating better just takes more work.
  • They don’t meditate because who has the time to sit on a pillow in front of a candle and/or Buddha and/or 1980’s wave machine for 45 minutes?
  • They don’t learn to play guitar because they don’t have 30 minutes a day to practice, or an hour once a week for a lesson.

In other words, we have an idea in our minds already of what it takes to do certain things. And if we don’t think we have enough free time to do them, we do nothing. No healthy eating, no exercise, no meditation, no guitar. It is our pre-conceived notions of what something is that can keep us from doing that thing. If we only had more time.

Here’s what will twist your noodle:

Same thing can be said about ‘free time.’ We even already have an idea of what quantity of time ‘free time’ must be in order to be frickin’ free. (That sentence hurt my head).

Free time? Oh, it’s at least half an hour? Or four hours, or a full day off for crying out loud.

And so, our conclusion?

If the time we do have doesn’t hit the right quantity, we really just don’t have any free time.

So not only do we feel stressed from feeling like we don’t have enough free time do do what will make us happier and healthier, we’re unhappy because we’re not doing the things themselves. We’re not exercising, or eating healthy etc.

Tough spot.

Or not…if…

We understand that all those ideas we have of what something is and how much time it takes are ALL made up. Human created. Fiction. Fluff.

Which means: we can re-define virtually everything.

Like this:

Eating healthy doesn’t have to be about new recipes or a ton of time in the kitchen.

Exercise doesn’t have to be an hour at a gym, or frankly, be anywhere near a gym, or even more frankly, involve a trainer named Jim.

Meditation doesn’t have to be 45 minutes (although, to be truthful, may actually have to involve a 1980’s wave machine).

Learning how to play guitar doesn’t have to mean 30 minutes of practice a day nor one lesson a week.

And…

Free time doesn’t have to be any actual, fixed amount of time.

Understanding this, free time can be driving in your car (snacking on carrots and celery), standing in line at the grocery store (thinking of an idea for a poem or story), sitting in the waiting room at the dentist (deep breathing/meditating). Waiting for your coffee to brew (doing squats in the kitchen).

Free time is simply time you devote to, wait for it, anything YOU want to do or think about.

Oh, how much we can accomplish if we liberate ourselves from these definitions and fixed quantities.

Thing is?

Every one of you reading this has free time. It just may not look like you think it should look. It may be a bit scattered around rather than clumped all together, but free time it still is.

Free time which can be what you want it to be.

In other words:

We all have the time. We just need to take it.

The Young and the Reckless

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Because of the ginormous amount of very attractive diets and other health-oriented quick fixes, it’s easy for us to buy into the idea that it’s possible to very quickly change our habits and behaviors.

But, remember this…

No matter how old you are, chances are good that your current eating and/or exercise habits were established a long time ago.

Like, years ago.

First there were the habits that were passed down to us by our parents.

And then? The habits that got put into place when we first got out on our own.

Remember the infamous, immortal, late teens, early twenties?

This was when, probably not super consciously by the way, habits we still battle with today were formed.

Inked.

Cemented.

So, why on earth do we think we ought to be able to change these years-in-the-making habits in a 7-day cleanse or 21-day diet?

Chances are, we can’t.

And, how about this….

When our eating/exercise habits were formed, we were maybe, well, perhaps not super concerned with healthy living. Let’s just say that at 18 I wasn’t hyper focused on preventing heart disease.

In other words, kind of a bummer that we established eating habits when we didn’t have to care as much about what or how we ate.

At 18 I’d eat, no joke, a Big Mac, six-piece chicken McNugget, large fry and a coke without so much as a single thought about inflammation, weight gain, or anything else of that sort. And that cute little 1594 calorie meal (yeah, I did the math) was just one of the meals I’d eat on that day.

And yet, I was thin, had energy, with no real digestive issues to speak of (though, in the interest of transparency, I was an asthmatic and did have pretty bad allergies…so, thank goodness for inhalers and Sudafed).

Fact is, I didn’t really think too much about food one way of the other. No interest. Didn’t have to.

Turns out, years later, my body essentially said “yeah, I can’t keep this crap up any longer, so hey, just an idea, but how about no more Mc-Frickin’-Donalds?” Weight was going up, energy was going down.

I decided it was time for a change.

Understatement of the century: It wasn’t easy.

So I did what many do…this plan, that plan, this book, that book. Tons of information and knowledge about healthy behaviors, but no sustainable plan of attack.

As a result, couple points here:

  • When you expect to change habits that were literally years in the making in a fraction of that time, you’re setting yourself up for failure.
  • Get very clear (journaling is super helpful here) on why you want to make the change in the first place. Trust me, it ain’t weight loss, diabetes or anything that specific. Chances are you want to feel better. You want to have more energy and vibrancy. In other words, you might be at an age where you actually want to think about food one way or another. Is it possible that food has a deeper purpose than just what tastes best in the moment? Hmmm….

This, like many other things I write and talk about, is easier said than done, but…Slow down a bit and ease your way in to whatever changes you want to make.

And…

Take a moment to think about where these habits started and how long they’ve been around in your life.

This may be just the information you need to avoid taking on too much too soon and burning out.

This may be just the information you need to begin the process of real change.

WE’RE LIVING IN A HIT SONG WORLD.

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I am feeling a bit restless.

Here’s what about:

My work and, well, social media…mostly frickin’ social media.

Here’s why, and yes, I know what I’m about to write makes me sound a tad old.

During my song writing/recording days, music was about albums. How the songs flowed together as a group. My band labored over the order of songs in hopes that our album would be an experience that lasted from the first to the last song. An order of songs that could transport you to another place and elicit all sorts of feelings, memories, and more. A song or two would usually stand out as more immediately accessible, while others clearly fell into the ‘grows on you after 10 listens’ category.

Cut to:

Present day.

I know, I know…there are still albums, but….

With the advent of iTunes, Pandora, Spotify, music seems to be individual song driven. Often the most accessible, quick-to-like songs. We spend the 99 cents and boom—we’ve got the hit on our phones.

But what about the rest of the album? What about the songs that don’t jump right out at you? What about the songs that take 10 listens to appreciate?

Here’s the truth—there are albums that I’ve been listening to for 30 years, yet STILL discovering in them things I never have before. Noticing a lyric here, a guitar riff there. Elements that I seemingly passed by for years until, for whatever reason, they stood out. Songs whose meanings change for me as my life changes. Lyrics that are more relevant to me now than they were when I first heard them.

Here’s my fear…

With an unprecedented amount of music, art, videos, blogs, podcasts, news, films, shows etc. out there (a good thing) we are perhaps losing out on the deeper, more meaningful, less accessible content (not such a good thing) because it’s just too to easy to go from hit to hit to hit. We are devoting less time to discovery, insight, the deeper meaning. We hear the hit song, download the hit song, and move on.

Perhaps even worse, many content creators are working hard to craft the most effective ‘click bait’ for fear their work will be lost in the craziness. More and more focus is on what will go viral than on what will change the world for the better.

So how does social media relate to all this?

About two months ago I deleted my Twitter account, and never looked back. Why? Because it’s the epitome of quick hits, headlines. Get it all in in 140 or 280 characters and move on. Don’t linger. In fact, if you’re not on your feed a ton, you miss a ton. I began to go on less and less and despise it more and more.

But that’s Twitter…I am still on Facebook and Instagram.

While I’m not ready to throw in the towel on them yet, I am putting some serious thought to what, if anything, they’re adding to my life. Both platforms have very little to do with my actual work, my actual ideas. My work lives entirely on smallsteppers.com, my books, YouTube, this blog, and previously on my podcast (incidentally, I may have some news on that front in the coming months). I do enjoy keeping up with old friends now and then, but on the balance, losing interest in the whole shebang–in fact, I wish there was another way to keep in touch with old friends, say something like (and I’m just throwing out ideas here) some sort of electronic mail-ish type of thing, or a device we could talk into and our voices would be sent through the air.

Here’s what I really want:

  • I want whatever I decide to do about social media to be an actual choice. Not something I do because I think I SHOULD be doing it for my career.
  • I want to minimize distractions (social media and otherwise) wherever possible so I can continue working hard to produce increasingly better work, deep work, quality work. So that my focus is forever on the entire album, not the hit song.

Frankly, the fact that the phrase “click bait” even exists is a sad commentary on the modern world. So, let’s not forget about the beneath-the-surface content, and do what we can when we can to find it.

If this means tossing out Facebook, then so it goes.

How about this instead: I’ll see you at the coffee house.

 

 

RESISTANCE IS FUTILE

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No, the title is not a Star Trek reference.

This post is about a modern-world reality that is bringing us down.

Side-note:

I am officially on a social media vacation. Not posting on Twitter (I no longer have a Twitter account, so that’s a permanent vacation), Facebook, or Instagram. Why the vacation? Because someone a, well, little more objective, suggested a vacation instead of my desire which was to shut down the whole enchilada—the question remains as to what I’ll do when April rolls around.

Until then (and trust me, my social media vacation is COMPLETELY related to this week’s post)…

Resistance.

Is.

Futile.

Think about all the things in the health/happiness realm that we resist for the purpose of, in theory, maintaining and improving our own health and happiness…

  • Junk food—candy, cookies
  • A strong desire NOT to workout
  • Stress in the workplace
  • Stress at home

Wait, am I saying we should just not resist junk food and instead eat more of it, and, for that matter, sit on the couch more, get stressed out at work more, and fight with our families more?

Why yes…of course I’m saying that.

Not.

What I am saying is that one of my main areas of focus is on the stress generated in proportion to how much we resist and how that relates to our overall stress.

Why?

Because when our overall stress increases, we tend to be more vulnerable to the very things we’re trying desperately NOT to do. The very things we’re trying to resist. In other words—this morning, when we spent a ton of effort resisting the donuts that Neil brought into the office (that’s SO Neil), we may have actually increased our chances of eating the dang donuts. We wear ourselves down and then, all bets are off as to what can happen.

Here’s what I think: The key to a happy and healthy life is to spend more time thinking about what you do truly want, not what you don’t truly want. To learn how to let go so as to live better.

Spend our time and energy resisting and guess what happens: we spend our time and energy resisting.

I know. It ain’t brain surgery.

As odd as it sounds, it’s worth experimenting with resisting less of the so-called ‘bad things.’

Couple things on this front:

  • My approach is long-term (and I mean life-long). Meaning that while resisting less may mean initially eating a few too many cookies, you’ll gain more time and energy to devote to thinking about who you truly are (e.g. someone who is in control of how many cookies he/she eats) and the life you want to be living.
  • By using up less mental real estate on resistance, you can actually ask yourself whether or not you want the dang cookies. Often we’re so consumed with the battle, that we forget that we just might be OK with having a cookie once in a while—interestingly, by removing this weight from our shoulders, we’re actually increasing the chances that we won’t over-indulge. Less self-pressure, less stress. Less stress, better decision making.

Over the years, I’ve had clients (and now smallsteppers.com members) come to me with a self-described ‘problem’ with junk food.

My (surprising) response?

“For now, eat the junk food. We’re not there yet.”

My message to them, and to you? Stop resisting. All that additional energy expenditure is often wasted and leads to burn out. The very burnout that will result in doing even more of the behavior you’re desperately trying not to do.

It’s no surprise we don’t thrive under acute stress. It’s no surprise our health goes down as stress goes up. And it’s hopefully no big surprise that during times of low/manageable stress, we make better decisions—decisions that are in line with who we are and that improve our lives.

Trying to fashion a life where you try super hard to avoid all stress is not the answer.

What is the answer?

Give in to the fact that stress will come again, and do the best you can to prepare yourself for when it does.

In other words, spend more time and energy on self-care during all the other, non-stressful times.

So, for now, go a little nutty nut nut with the cookies, and when you’re finished, take a little jaunt over here to this little ‘thexercise’ (‘thexercise’ = thought-exercise. You heard it here first):

  • Did I really want those cookies?
  • Did they make me feel good/Did I really enjoy them?
  • If I were calm and in a good mood, would I have eaten that many or any?
  • Is there something I can do to improve my state of mind such that I increase my chances of being calm and in a good mood next time Stupid Neil brings cookies?

Good to know.

 

 

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